Questions for mom if she’d like to work on our relationship

Is she currently in therapy? If not, it may be best to postpone conversations until therapy has been established.
Is she prepared to talk about trauma responses and what we pass down generationally that we’re unaware of?
Can she hear my truth without getting defensive?
Before we talk, can she think of examples of how she supported my social-emotional health?
Can she identify how I self soothed as a child and adult?